Sure, you’re a great writer, editor, and all of that; but most people do not hang theirs close out to dry in the front yard, you do. I spend months in-and-out of the hospital trying to regain normal physical and mental functions, my recovery time would be four to five years. The healthy habits you formed early on in life have helped you become the strong, young man you are today. There is one thing, I had good insurance through my employer, and the nature of my accident provided for each minor dependent a large sum of money, which I never received, but later found out the check was sent to my son’s mother’s address. but in my forties I began to realize how much I really did not know. A letter to … My 10-year-old son, who needs to hear a few home truths. What do you think? I tried to infuse these letters with humor and fun. Don’t neglect those superficial qualities—they are the access port to your deeper ones. I think you do. Evolution. All the answers are right there, but people with these concerns don’t seem to go to church, read the bible and live it everyday. That s right – I m writing this at the age of 25, and I have some advice for you. Remember our little, plastic, red, first-aid kit? From Me to You: Be you – Twelve years ago today, this glorious bundle of goodness rocked my world.She had a full head of dark brown hair, chocolate brown eyes and a not one single freckle. Lorraine- Your letter to your son is beautiful. I’m sorry. I’ll never forget that, as long as live. Initially, you were supposed to come around the 23rd of July. The important thing is to do your job-whatever that may be- to the best of your ability. He knows how much my blog means to me, and is very encouraging of my pursuit of a career in writing. Somehow, a whole year full of ups and downs and ins and outs and every-which-ways has passed, and I now find myself writing, again, as you turn 17. I appreciate the effort you always put in. My son and I have always had an incredible bond, as I have made him the absolute center of my universe and made sure he was taken care of in the best ways possible. The same with my Mom, we’re very close as I am with my entire family. Thank you. She is controlling of him and I no one will explain why. Until then, you have to live your own life!!! When I was seventeen I wrote a letter to my 19-year-old self. Remember greeting each other after school, or hugging and kissing me good-night? I could give you a few pointers on what to include… I just had my 69th birthday… I am sending this letter to my 15 year old grandson as we have had many such conversations. Old enough to get your driver’s licence, Maybe even drive the distance, And yet I know for one, That you are still just old enough to be my son. When my son was seven years old until fourteen years old I was the dad who coached all his friends in basketball and baseball, won 1st place and were champions in both sports every season but two. Now that I taught him how to sew, it makes me wonder what I can teach him next. Made me reflect and I realize most of what you stated here are true, even today. I sang to you, read to you, taught you. I want you to know my feelings and thoughts while I can still communicate them. Happy … So now, I am putting together a book of letters to my son! The great joke is a crude and often offensive one, and at times it will hurt you and people you know. Yes I am trying to connect. And I hope it never changes… (unless it gets even better! This is again one perfect post. Love always, Dad Read Ron’s letter below and ask yourself if letter writing might be a good option for you. You’re generally on the right track (especially with music) and things turn out okay-ish. I know my son has read my letter and things are better since I sent it. Hi Lorraine, Even though I wrapped myself in a blanket, I still froze and felt the freezing effects of the wind whipping through my bones and at my face as I sat on the bleachers, while you worked up a sweat on the field. I forgave you and admired you for exerting some of your independence. I may not have disciplined you enough, or maybe I disciplined you too much. He is 44 years old now. When he was seven I got custody and raised him as a single father while his mother had visitation. Then maybe being a VA is RIGHT for YOU. If more educators read and reflect on your writing, and change up their game, then perhaps that may become a byline you will have to change. Any one thing is a mixture of other things, break it down, there is yet even more things in that thing; you have to keep doing this until literally you have only microscopic little things that are still more than one thing. Taught the Children’s Group at church five years having over 60 kids in class. My Son is 21 . I don’t think they understand what goes into a marriage and that it takes two no matter who’s at fault. You go to the gym enough! People will try to discourage, you may even try to discourage yourself, but you can and I kinda think you will. FYI, he’s now 26. Perhaps, if people had Jesus in their life, they would not be asking so many questions and worried about so many things. I am proud to call you my son. Tears streaming down my face. I very much enjoyed reading this letter. Thank you for reading this. Thank you for sharing your experience. I have tried to talk to him and had my parents talk to him – he is hearing NONE of it. I was surprised when you refused to let me launder your teenage clothes, and was impressed with the excellent care you took, and still take, with your wardrobe. If your son goes to school, send the letter to his school. “You will also experience a weird and creepy pressure to be manly, including how you position your legs when you sit ”. Congratulations on restoring the relationship. He ended up sewing the other. I probably wouldn’t have listened, but maybe my 15 year old daughter will. ... September 20, 2011 at 1:15 pm. What a great post. Be honest with yourself and those around. If so, call him. I was a single mom, too, so I can relate to your friend. I also find that crying helps me get out the pain and frustration I feel. Kudos to you. I think part of the absurdity is that we think we should get everything right the first time. Thank you for sharing. In another nine years, you’ll be an adult. A Letter To Future 18 Year Olds What you should know before becoming 18. I can’t wait to hear from the men who read my posts. I’m grateful for it. My son and I have never been closer, and I’m thankful each day for the relationship we now have. You can change the world. This is a great piece of writing and worth publishing. Great point, I’m in the same boat as both of you. The poem written by the author, found at the end of the book, warmed my heart. The father who left him crying and asking why his daddy didn’t love him anymore when he let him down again. When we do see each other at family functions he is distant. I need to give him that, the same love Jesus has for us. You truly have a gift, and I meant each and every word. . Although there’s not much choice for 13, 14 and 15 year olds, you may have luck with small, independent local shops who need casual low cost help. . I’m sorry if it came across as maligning all managers everywhere, that really wasn’t my point. You light up a room when you enter. Police would have to pick me up and take me home. Thank you for a delightful insight into male maturation. I also want to share my review of I Will Never Forget, which I’ve already posted to Goodreads and Amazon for readers to discover: I Will Never Forget is Elaine Pereira’s beautiful yet heart-wrenching tribute to her mother. I guess his early “training” of folding socks and towels taught him something! Very touching Lorraine.Your words clearly show how much you love your son. Are you trying to change things with your son… or daughter? My son, I am expecting the best from you, I am resting easy that you will make good choices and that you will continue to grow into the Godly young man you are already becoming. You were my boy, my precious, baby boy. I’m sorry you are not close with your son anymore. Give him time to mature and have patience. Love your paragraph ” Get over any desire to be normal.” I have copied to share with my kids every time they will feel different. I’m sorry. I’ve had my share of pain and grief, and can relate! he will come back in few minutes and apologize but those words will continue to hurt me forever. When you were thirteen or fourteen and wanted to come home (drunk?) Probably everybody did, but for some reason it didn’t feel that way that the time. But I have to let him go. Post the pictures online as if it was all their prom. Letter to My Son “Here is what I ... And you have seen men in uniform drive by and murder Tamir Rice, a 12-year-old child whom they were oath-bound to protect. Mine is now 23. Happy Birthday, Son! Do you like helping others? Yet I am mindful that they need to live their lives, as they do and I had to learn to let them go!! He responds to my text messages right away and even picked up the phone when I call him. That sad feeling you sometimes get when you see someone hurting or upset on TV or in the movies? The more seriously you take it, the harder you will laugh when you remember. I hope I can be 20% as eloquent and thorough when my son starts high school. Having my son in my life I am truly blessed as you are having yours in your life. He must be, too! It is a belt, a bracelet, a lasso, a snake, a harness, a … (I cried reading Elaine’s memoirs a bunch of times. I really wonder if there’s a reverse-coolness effect, where people who felt on top of things in high school are more prone to feel out-of-sorts in adulthood, and the kids who had a hard time in high school learned the things that they needed to learn to get along okay later on. That s right – I m writing this at the age of 25, and I have some advice for you. Keeping still for those few minutes required drastic measures! By subscribing to my list, you agree to allow me to email me your free e-book as well as join my email subscriber list. Oh Sherri, um…I think I’m going to have to listen to Steve Perry’s song. I too live in the after. Keep a box of tissues handy – you’ll need them! Smiling matters. This all may seem cynical, and I guess it is. Granola bars over chocolate bars? They are often big-cloud kind of items that are easy to avoid, but man does it feel good to cross one off. A teenager? I may have gambled, done drugs, and a few other things you hate me for, but I did try to be a good mother to you, and for you, as well as a friend. Our daughter gave us a beautiful grandchild and so I do see my ex and his wife on occasion. Let me remind you, I still am. Yes! What is troubling you? Let him know you are unhappy with his decision, but will love him regardless of what he decides to do. I’m happy I was able to express my emotions clearly and touch you. You lost me at the “empty eyes of your manager”. My son was 19 when he decided to leave home and make it on his own, doing his own thing, so I can relate to that, but I didn’t see him for over three years. I’m so sorry. I feel this is extremely selfish and takes away from the kids prom. Yeah, that may sound stereotypical, but stereotypes exist for a reason. The tone of a letter divulges so much between two people in a way that no other form of writing could ever accomplish. Thanks, Elaine! Try to laugh at this. (oooh, a dare…sure to get some responses if they read comments, too! I never thought that I’d feel so much, be passionate about so much, or be so prone to sobbing. Get a shitty job. I hope things work out for you both! Kids always want their dad to be the strongest, the best, or better than their friends dads. Like all important choices teenagers must make, you need to be at least thirty to get it right. I’m convinced already that publishing a book of letters is worthwhile and I’ll definitely include this letter in my book – so consider this a sneak preview! Add another ten and you will have even forgotten their faces. My son is now five years old. Can you now see what I’m facing, it’s an uphill battle. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are my single-most biggest achievement. A letter to … my teenage girl, who hates me so very much . You’ve been an inspiration to me, and I honestly don’t think I’ve ever been moved to tears by any other author – ever. It begins today. One year old you also refuses to be ignored - our neighbors have commented on the strength of your shrieks when you feel that is happening. I may not have been a perfect mom, but I tried to be. We teach our kids that there are jobs for everyone, not everyone is meant to be a doctor or lawyer, we need grocery store workers and burger flippers. It’s been a rough road, but making the changes I have made in recent years has helped tremendously – which is what he wanted for us both all along. My son is talking about joining the army and moving away. I did this many times, for many years. Through the author, the reader gets to know her family, and is able to identify with them as memories are related and glimpses into the author’s personal struggles are revealed. Ex did something that negatively impacted 38 year old son. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Instead of simply asking me to sew them, he asked me. This is the nature of things. However, a letter can be the most appropriate way to describe a profound feeling like pride in a son’s accomplishments. a little comment to support you. I’ve never even been sent a pic of their baby girl, sent pretty crocheted blankets, little dresses and shoes for her, a cheque, this was never cashed, now Christmas is coming, I wish it would end, I’ve bought cards, thinking of including a letter to him, will send a cheque too, I love him dearly, the hurting isn’t getting any better with time. It’s nice that we all have so much support! The most cost-effective and useful post-secondary program is probably a solo backpacking trip. Did you feel some sort of pressure involving how to position your legs in an effort to manly? They may even pick one out of a keepsake box in 20 years and be reminded of just how special they are to you. My ex husband remarried and I fear his new wife will replace me when it comes to my son. Reminded me of Cat Stevens – Father and Son. My handsome some is 36 years old, 13″ taller than I am, and the most wonderful son, husband, daddy, and he is a Nurse. Spend it instead wandering every sidestreet of geekdom and subculture you pass by. I know I will always be his Mom and we have an extraordinary bond. He doesn’t believe in Santa, but Santa’s going to be extra nice to him this year! When you were two, I wrote you a song. Been a reader for a couple of years and this particular article resonated so much, even though I was never a teenage boy. Yes it’s lovely. If you become uninteresting I will understand if there is no return reply. He doesn’t have any friends only the ones he talks to online when on his PS4 . This is why I have so much respect for you! I agree with you completely. I recommend reading it all. By Donna Cheng October 1, 2015 We used to call it ‘sweet sixteen’ but I never thought about how ridiculous it would sound to a young man! Sometimes he reads my posts – but I never know when since he never comments. Pick out a message for your 15-year-old son wishing him a happy birthday. Dennis, congratulations on your new addition!!! You will fart at the wrong time, maybe only figuratively. I’m so glad that I was able to help you out by sharing my experiences and offering you advice. Hang onto those letters. Let me describe my son, 6′ 5″ and 200 pounds -very fit, 70% introvert, basically “A” student without effort, extremely bored with academics, solve trigonometry 3 in his head, not once in trouble at school, started college courses 10th grade, one girlfriend and still together, all star athlete quit in 9th grade (bored), always yes sir – no ma’am to everyone. I love, and always will love, you. I made that mistake and it landed me to parts I didn’t want to be in the first place, but of course I didn’t know it then. The only strategy is to do new and interesting things as frequently as possible, trying to find those veins of meaning, doing as little permanent damage in the meantime to your health and your finances. For now, here’s my most recent letter to my son. My heart swelled when you told me you brought one to the beach and when you went camping (or was it hiking?) Free to Pursue, I was about to make a similar comment when I realized that you had beat me to it. by Cheyenne Bell. The letter you always wanted to write. He does not read novels like I do, either, but enjoys reading magazines and articles on the internet. Never loose another’s trust in you, it’s one of the toughest things to earn back once you lose it. You delight in figuring out mazes and … Search. Please, always remember that. It’s beautiful. But when you’re an adult, or training to be one, all aspects of life seem to become concerned with trying to be a certain way: sufficiently cool, successful, independent, respectable, charitable, productive, original, normal, healthy, sexy, or whatever else you currently are not. Nothing in existence is perfect; nothing is literally the ONLY thing that can be 100% any one thing, only because it’s nothing. My favorite line: “Like all important choices teenagers must make, you need to be at least thirty to get it right.” This one is oh so true. Thank you. It warms my heart to know that I made a difference, however small or large, in someone’s life. By then, my initial $3,000 gift would have grown into an investment worth perhaps $32,000. Wow – this article blew me away! Before my accident 6′ 2″ and 235 pounds, returned from the hospital a frail 160 pound weakling that didn’t know his name, couldn’t remember his address, phone number, or where he lived. Find those grooves of meaning that you can follow into adulthood. Dearest Cayden, Today, you my son turn nine and I want you to know that I am oh so happy to be your mommy. There is enormous pressure to get this choice right, and you won’t. Thank you so much. The shocker, however, is what he said to me. This is a mind bogglingly awesome post and feels like it was directed straight at my 15 year old self. When you were six and came home with a “D is for Daddy” father’s day card, you questioned me. Apples over potato chips? So here’s a bit of advice to my teenage self, with the hopes that it will resonate beyond the life of one 15-year-old in New York. Deborah, you’re so sweet to reply to Jennette! My son probably thought I abandoned him because he didn’t hear from me. Only someone having been through it like yourself understands the unbearable pain Im feeling right now and have been for the past 3 years since my son decided to cut me out of his life. I’ve been reading and writing ever since I can remember (like age four or five) and used to read in the dark when I was a child (in bed, after my siblings and I were told “lights out”) using the streetlight outside my bedroom window for illumination. I’m sure your bond with all of your children is strong, especially your daughter, whom I know you have but didn’t mention here. He just shuts himself away in his room all day coming out only to eat and drink . LOL He’d fit right in! Again, this is a letter to myself and I was thinking of a particular person. Thank you for sharing this with us and to J. for letting you. Having no access to drugs my entire life then to have all you wanted I didn’t manage it very well, to say the least. Plus, I loved writing in the mindset of a four-footed animal, and I knew the letters would make my daughter giggle. Love happy blog post-endings! But humiliation is as universal as it gets. Loving you has shown me what it means to be loved by God, for His love knows no boundaries. It can also allow you to express the caring and emotion you feel that might be harder to communicate in person. So don’t think your hidden deeper qualities are enough. I stroked your forehead and hair when you were sick. So the first step can often lead to more thinking, and doubt, which expands the cloud. Driving home one day I had an auto accident leaving me with broken bones and head trauma. When I actually sat down and started writing, I realized that while I could have used the advice back then. ? I raised him, he knows better than to place something inanimate higher than the soul of a human being. I’d probably just say “I know all that already” and then went on continuing to be a jerk and spending all of my money on video games and bad food. You’re growing up faster than I could have ever imagined. Letter To My 15 Year-Old Self by Tonia Jordan – ArticleCity.com. . Started feeling sorry for myself and loathing in self pity wondering – why this happened to me? It is a difficult age and I think young people are missing the feeling of safety that allowed my generation to get out there and do a lot more stuff. I recommend reading it all. I can’t always talk to him, so I write him letters. He goes there on weekends and parts of the summer, but is always ready to come home to his Momma. Last modified on Tue 20 Sep 2016 05.43 EDT. (+ WHAT to Look At), How to Become a Self-Published Author on Amazon/KDP. Thank you for feeling comfortable enough to open up to me. I can’t even imagine the pain I put him through. It’s great that he now tells me that he loves me, too. At least once a month! It’s always the children that are left with questions. I think the right set of readers would really love to read all the letters you’ve written to your son. With a chilly feeling in his heart, the worried father took in the fact that the room was tidy and all the mess had been picked up. Early childhood educators will tell you this: Studies show that the first 4 years of someone’s life are the most formative. I kept you clean. you could have a real best seller here. I’m sorry. We argue so much it hurts ,absolutely breaking my heart into ….I can only imagine what toll it’s taken on him …. Wow, you hit the nail on the head, David! And, – I don’t mean to scare you – but we really have no clue how we’ll raise you in the next nine either. As in spreading them wide or something similar? I am excited about the journey that lies before you. Yes, I love my son. My Last Letter to My Son. Having lived with a Dad that was ill my entire life you don’t take life for granted, not one second. He’s smart, but we are two opposite people with very different interests. I suppose I can be a little more kind to myself in this process. As an adult, you said you were. M y … Because that is what we do… we hurt the ones we love. I told you “I love you” constantly, daily, always, because I do. My TRUE TALE for today is a bit unique, because it involves me writing a letter to my son, whom I re-connected with in 2013 after being estranged from him for about three years. I promise you that I will hold your hand for as long as you will let me. I have often been accused of intentionally spreading them when I sit, and some have taken it as far as erroneously thinking that I’m trying to “assert my dominance” or “protect my territory.”. Hi my 15 year old son just refuses to go to school . You have forever changed me my son, and I will love you more than I will ever be able to express. My TRUE TALE for today is a bit unique, because it involves me writing a letter to my son, whom I re-connected with in 2013 after being estranged from him for about three years. That’s a lot of roles (the Santa Easter Bunny Tooth Fairy thing especially). It’s anything but personal–when it comes to other people’s impressions it’s never about who you are, it’s about how they feel. You can get wiser and younger at the same time. I think most of us can identify with working jobs we hated, working for a manager that does not respect you or share any values with you. I know this because I know you very well. Letter to my 16 year old son from mom. Great article. Oct 10, 2016. I have tears in my eyes as I read this. He came to Thanksgiving at my parents house and I got to spend time with him. I hope you are able to reconnect with him! 5. There's a good chance, however, that your 15-year-old will think she's ready to take on the world now. More than you will ever realise. In my case I pray one day he will love me and forgive me for leaving his father. Ask all the time: What’s the worse that can happen? Ridicule and self-loathing were not things you were going to experience! Any job done for years is an enormous amount of labor, and if you find it meaningless then it will drain you until you move away from it. Thank you for a beautiful article. My Adult son (22 Years) just told me, “why don’t you just die and leave all your money to me and Mom, you useless peace of S***” It was your first rejection of me. 1. I appreciate your comment. , hi lorraine; a very powerful letter you have written here. Young man, I … Get your face right into it, right into the filthy shelves and bins of expired yogurt and the empty eyes of your manager and make a vow that whatever you do with your life you will always be moving away from all of that. What makes a job shitty is not the type of business but how it relates to what is important to you. ), I decided to put this book together after reading. Trish. You have been ready for this since you were 2 years old, son. He wasn’t standoffish like he has been. I force myself not to think about it or I would be a basket case. “I Will Never Forget.”. Even as a teen, he didn’t want me washing his clothes. Always think positive and love abundantly. Thanks, Arleen. Instead of the greatest dad, I was the greatest disappointing dad. The Cloud illusion is so powerful. You have taught me more about myself than I ever thought possible. You have given me so much. He has never had a fabulous relationship with his father. I fed you and bathed you and clothed you. You’ll be my baby forever, even though you are a grown man now. Dear 15 year-old Tonia Jordan, I know this sounds strange, but I know somewhere in your silly sci-fi mind, you re going to believe me: I m you in 10 years. An opportunity arose recently for me to write a letter to my 17 year old son, reflecting on the impending conclusion of his formal school education and journey through the books…. I knew you were not feeling well, because you let me do these things. Letter To My 15 Year-Old Self by Tonia Jordan – ArticleCity.com May 8, 2013 bupuma Leave a comment. What will happen is perfectly ironic and I hope you will find it funny one day—they won’t like you because you won’t talk to them. A Mother’s Open Letter To Her Son Will Bring You To Tears. We must embrace all of the little things in life. What’s meaningless to me may be a big deal to my son because of the integrity he wishes to uphold. Hi David. I hope I tell you that often enough. Have a heart-to-heart. I hope you don’t mind but I’ll be using this with the young people with whom I work. How old is your boy? The 50 Best Books for 11- and 12-Year-Olds 15 Classics That 8- to 12-Year-Olds Say Are Worth Reading Today The Most Exciting ... the ones with the 4-year-old genius), your child will develop an interest in reading at their own pace — sometime between age five and seven. His penmanship is not really neat either – he should have become a doctor! I don’t really know. Oh, God, I’ve no idea what I will do if THAT happens…. Get clean. I tried teaching you right from wrong, and to treat others with respect. I think I must have pushed him too hard but I wanted him to have a good life. ), Why Evaluate Your Business? An unexplainable depth of pain. Thank you! I know I put you through hell. ), I’m glad your son still hugs you! I stumbled across this site when looking for some comfort or some direction in how to get my son to speak to me. It’s also not easy being a child. So I’m doing all I can to help him through this too. I explained things to you, preparing you the best that I could for what was to come.

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